On Change ❤️

I love not being in the same space, with the same stuff, with the same people. I have, over a period of time, accepted change as the only constant in our lives. And today, I was a bit low and I decided to give myself a little haircut and a hair flip and voila... I couldn’t stop smiling the rest of the day, feeling the power of change.💗💓💗

How does change make you feel? Change, for me, is an amazing, never-ending journey, and change in the context of 'the self' is inevitable whether or not we proactively desire change. I find change comforting, knowing that a situation will not be the same, neither will I nor any other person around me, keep me humble and accepting ❤️ 

Accepting change as the only constant has meant that I enjoy the present, make the most of it, and when it is over, instead of pining over the loss of something amazing, I cherish that I had it. Similarly, when times get challenging, it brings me hope that that'll change too, and sooner than I expect it to. 

So, stability and change, how does that go hand in hand? For a lot of people I know, stability indicates consistency in terms of living in the same house, being with the same person romantically, having the same friends, having the same or higher financial freedom - my definition of stability is slightly different. For me, stability means consistency in thought process, consistency in emotional state, consistency in learning, consistency in growing - I am not afraid of stability, if anything, change makes me more stable in what truly matters to me. 

Instead of living in the same city or house, I choose consistency in comfort and satisfaction in our standard of living.

Instead of having X amount of money, I choose consistency in my source of income, management of debt and assets.

Instead of being married or having a boyfriend or having only a few close friends, I choose consistency in strong, supportive, and reliable relationships.

Instead of being in the same job or having only one career for a long time, I choose consistency in the sense of purpose and fulfillment that I receive from doing whatever I do.

Instead of being a certain type of daughter, sister, mother, aunt, or friend, I choose consistency in the ability to manage emotions effectively, cope with stress, and prioritise well-being over having control.

Stability serves as the groundwork for personal growth, giving people the freedom to flourish in different areas of life without being burdened by constant uncertainty or upheaval. It’s the equilibrium between feeling secure and remaining flexible in the face of change.

One of the most toxic traits we teach in our society is “To stay”

In my opinion, every one of us should be taught to leave:
Leave that party when it’s boring
Leave your job when it’s not fulfilling
Leave that course when it’s not teaching you something of value
Leave that relationship when it’s not respectful
Leave that friend who turned their back on you when you most needed them
Leave those bad feelings behind
Leave those sad memories behind

Learn to leave if you truly want to live ❤️

From 2014 to 2024 - 10 years of visible change

I wish for us to all be able to leave whatever it is that weighs us down and enjoy what we have now, in the present 💝 

When are you the Happiest? They asked
When I’m with myself, I said.

Doesn’t that mean that you don’t miss your son? They asked

I just smiled, for it takes a lot of understanding to know that I can’t offer what I don’t have for myself. Unless one can be happy in their company and feel enough, they can never truly be happy in another relationship.

Can you offer someone the money you don’t have for yourself?? Well then, how can I offer the love and time to anyone if I don’t have it for myself first?

Practicing love for yourself is the best way to teach it to your own children - isn’t it??