Having worked for more than a decade and having been born a female, I now understand why many females fail to follow work ethics and turn unprofessional over a period of time. Is it because they are not able to handle work and family responsibilities together? Or is it because of their habit to gossip endlessly? Or may be because, they cannot digest the success of fellow women, the J factor?
I kept asking this question to myself again and again! Having faced many challenges at work with the women colleagues, I always thought that may be because I am born and brought up to be a tomboy, I do not exhibit the "female" traits. But, I was wrong! It ain't the exhibit, in fact, I find myself to be far more fashionable than other women around. I am more comparatively conscious than my other female colleagues about how I look and what I wear and things like that BUT I am not at all concerned about who talks with whom and why OR who's got a liking for whom OR which two colleagues seem to compliment each other as a couple. Are these things more important than the work we are being paid for??
Another major obstacle that I saw which women employees face is the B factor. Back biting and bitching...! When some females cannot beat their colleagues intellectually, they try to beat them on appearances and when they fail in doing that as well, character is the sole criteria to be attacked, linking her name to someone else is the easiest way to distract them of their work! But in all this why should a company or an institution suffer, only because of the insecurities faced by an amateur employee?
Is is not the same with males? is what we would be tempted to ask. Well, yes to an extent and no to an extent. Males carry a different mindset at work, not that they don not compete with their counterparts or they are not jealous. They too face their part of insecurities and react. Like, most males would compete in proving themselves to be more productive than the others or better organizers than the other or more responsible than the others. When a male feels insecure about his job or position, he tries to improvise his ways of working and when a female has the same feelings, she tries to pull others down!
Exceptions are always there whether we are talking about males or females, about a profession or vocation, about a personal matter or professional matters! What I am trying to convey here is simply that when we are working as professionals, we must take care that we are NOT friends or enemies, we are simply COLLEAGUES! We are not here to judge people or to see what others have to say, we are here to WORK and that is what we must stick to...
I kept asking this question to myself again and again! Having faced many challenges at work with the women colleagues, I always thought that may be because I am born and brought up to be a tomboy, I do not exhibit the "female" traits. But, I was wrong! It ain't the exhibit, in fact, I find myself to be far more fashionable than other women around. I am more comparatively conscious than my other female colleagues about how I look and what I wear and things like that BUT I am not at all concerned about who talks with whom and why OR who's got a liking for whom OR which two colleagues seem to compliment each other as a couple. Are these things more important than the work we are being paid for??
Another major obstacle that I saw which women employees face is the B factor. Back biting and bitching...! When some females cannot beat their colleagues intellectually, they try to beat them on appearances and when they fail in doing that as well, character is the sole criteria to be attacked, linking her name to someone else is the easiest way to distract them of their work! But in all this why should a company or an institution suffer, only because of the insecurities faced by an amateur employee?
Is is not the same with males? is what we would be tempted to ask. Well, yes to an extent and no to an extent. Males carry a different mindset at work, not that they don not compete with their counterparts or they are not jealous. They too face their part of insecurities and react. Like, most males would compete in proving themselves to be more productive than the others or better organizers than the other or more responsible than the others. When a male feels insecure about his job or position, he tries to improvise his ways of working and when a female has the same feelings, she tries to pull others down!
Exceptions are always there whether we are talking about males or females, about a profession or vocation, about a personal matter or professional matters! What I am trying to convey here is simply that when we are working as professionals, we must take care that we are NOT friends or enemies, we are simply COLLEAGUES! We are not here to judge people or to see what others have to say, we are here to WORK and that is what we must stick to...
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